Dieting, Rex Reed, Fat Acceptance, Obesity, Women and Melissa McCarthy: The skinny on the Fat

I love Melissa McCarthy. So does my husband. NEVER  did her size summon anything negative. In fact I think he has the hots for her!      

Melissa McCarthy's "Identity Thief" opened to record numbers making it one of the best attended debuts of a comedy in all time.  But Rex Reed, a curmudgeon of a man, did not just bash her movie—instead he called her a female hippo, obese, tractor sized and "comedian who has devoted her short career to being obese and obnoxious with equal success."

Have you ever sen this man?  Google his name.  He ain't no lightweight.  RUTHLESS REX came out of his closet, one he knows well, to steal her moment. But "Rex, the shoplifter Reed," knows all about stealing. (Rex Reed blames his arrest on fever of forgetfulness", USA Today, February 17, 2000.)  He called it a lapse Did he also forget where his ass had been?  I'm sure it's been in a lot more compromising places than this woman a larger-than-life Melissa has been. 

Then again I ask what other corpulent male actors have he done this deed to- I mean the bashing. Did he ever think about vilifying Hitchcock, Dom, DeLuise, Jack Black, Orson Wells or NATHAN LANE for their girth? 

He wrote, 

"The snafus in the worst road movie since The Guilt Trip plunge Mr. Bateman and his female hippo into a motel with only a double bed, a grotesque sex scene with a pickled reprobate she picks up in a bar who demands a threesome, a violent bar fight that bloodies his nose, a kidnapping, a multi-car collision going the wrong way on the freeway … but why go on? They seem to be making it up as they go along, in a movie that threatens never to end. . . Melissa McCarthy (Bridesmaids) is a gimmick comedian who has devoted her short career to being obese and obnoxious with equal success. . .  Poor Jason Bateman. How did an actor so charming, talented, attractive and versatile get stuck in so much dreck? From

 http://observer.com/2013/02/declined-in-identity-thief-batemans-bankable-billing-cant-lift-this-flick-out-of-the-red/

Rex, are you jealous?  

Cacophonous, you also called her.

ca·coph·o·nous  [kuh-kof-uh-nuhs]  adjective

Having a harsh or discordant sound.  

 That's what YOUR words summon.  They assaulted my ears just as much as fag, drunkard, junkie, or shit-packer might.  I raised five children and the're all better behaved than you.  Is this your regular paradigm for treating a bad movie review?  Insult the qualities, attributes or the personal-self of the actors?  What if the actor was an alcoholic or drug addict? How about gay? 

Well, Mr. Reed, this is some kind of strange (I could have used another word and given you a taste of your own medicine) bias you've shown.  Slam the movie, but debasing the actress for her appearance?  It seems like you've been stuck in a lot of dreck (Shit in Yiddish) yourself.  You should know better.

Then you used the constitution to fortify your dreck-filled mouth.  YOU of all people!  And I'm not talking about the oppressed group of idiots and shoplifters.  Just take you old ass to the boonies and see how much of those farm boys and cow hands would take kindly to you.  Truth is—my skinny ass would be right at your side. 

"Saying that his jerky comments are "constitutionally protected, so there's nothing anybody can do," Reed dragged out a conspiracy theory claiming that Universal Pictures was using his review to leverage moviegoers to buy tickets."

http://blogs.indiewire.com/theplaylist/rex-reed-says-melissa-mccarthy-bases-career-on-being-obnoxious-and-fat-invokes-constitution-for-his-right-to-be-a-jerk-20130211

On Twitter, Paul Feig, who directed McCarthy in Bridesmaids and The Heat, wrote, "I cordially invite Mr. Rex Reed to go fuck himself." (From Wikipedia  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rex_Reed )

I think your miserable self has been doing that- for a long time.

Rex Reed is a figment in his own imagination. 

I just asked my husband to read this.  "Yeah, I love funny women.  Maybe Melissa might get a chance with me. . ."  

Fat-hate is destructive and what was said not only targeted this actress, it hit all of us who battle those attitudes and stereotypes. e 

Lap Band and Gastric Bypass: Is it so terrible?

I had a reality check last night. It came from a literary agent.  I'm trying to get representation for my book FAT CHANCE :

I read your query letter and I see lots that's thought-provoking in your presentation. Unfortunately, there are two detractors against your desire to obtain a book deal.

One problem is that weight loss surgery is still viewed with suspicion by the obese, as well as many physicians, who prefer not to restrict the food entering the stomach by such radical means. The recidivism rate is also daunting, as well as the fact that there have been victims of the surgery who have lost their lives.

I thank her because she reminded me that the world sees WLS as a problem.  Despite endorsement  by every major medical group, and most insurance companies, despite the successes, the public is still fed the shitty media hype out there.

The public wants to see us Carnie or Roker up.  

"Has she gained any of her weight back," my nasty cousin asked my daughter. 

I called her and asked her if she had gained any weight since I saw her last!  

You won't get on the JOY FIT CLUB if you have cheated willpower.  I recall watching that emaciated so-called expert actually say something like this to a woman who lost over 100 pounds . . .  "AND YOU DID IT WITHOUT TAKE THE EASY WAY OUT - SURGERY."

I'm sure the producer screamed in her ear.  She lost all my respect.  I don't degrade the people who work to lose a hundred pounds!  I was one of them and I gained back every bit.  Three times, just like 96% of them will.  That is the statistic.  

I thank that agent, she gave me great advice.  Now we have to share the word about this surgery--we are vilified- like we made a pact with the devil.  

Fat acceptance move over.  We are damned if we do and damned if we don't!  

Al Rocker, Chris Christie and FAT Politics: STOP the Blame!

Today Show host,  Al Roker, debuted his memoir Never Goin' Back: Winning the Weight-Loss Battle For Good,  he revealed two of the worst comments he has faced.  First, he cheated willpower by having weight loss surgery.  Second, people liked him better when he was fat.

In February 2013,  New Jersey Governor Chris Christie fired back at a former White House doctor who called attention to his weight. "It's almost a like a time bomb waiting to happen unless he addresses those issues before running for office," Connie Mariano said. 

Christie called her comment "out of line."

The Obese can't win!  They are damned if they do and damned if they don't.

Millions of opinions later the public is still divided—is it bullying to ask someone to shape up and get healthy?  The public says, "no!" Can it disqualify one from the Presidency?  They say, "yes!"  Does weight loss surgery cheat willpower and make one less of a person?  The public screams, "absolutely!"  Dieting is a solitary effort but few realize what the social world feeds the obese us.  Society vilifies the obese and reminiscent of the early AIDS epidemic, holds them directly accountable.  After all, you can choose what you put in your mouth.

How much do we vilify the obese?

In a study of attitudes on obesity Glen Gaesser revealed  that college students would chose to marry a criminal, embezzler, drug user, shoplifter, or blind person rather than a fat person.  Over half of young women would rather be run over by a truck than be obese and two-thirds would rather be stupid or mean than fat.

·         46% would give a year of life

·         30% would rather go through a divorce

·         35% would rather be severely depressed

·         24% would give up three years of life

64% of all Americans are overweight.  Shockingly even some of the overweight and obese derogate  each other.  There is always someone worse off.  

TIP: Is it any wonder why we self-loath when we gain weight?  YOU many not be the failure. Punch society for some of that contribution. 

Myths of Dieting, Weigh-loss that Undermine Efforts

A profound study was just published in the New England Journal of Medicine.  Profound in that it exposes some myths that are entrenched in our food-thinking.  

“In my view,” said Dr. Jeffrey M. Friedman, a Rockefeller University obesity researcher, “there is more misinformation pretending to be fact in this field than in any other I can think of. (NY TIMES, Many Weight-Loss Ideas Are Myth, Not Science, Study Finds. 01/31/2013). ”

We operate using a “reasonableness bias” – If something sounds reasonable we buy into it.  It does seem reasonable that if you weigh yourself every day it might help control your weight.  Right?  Wrong!  Personally the scale confounds me.  I don't touch it.  If my non-stretch jeans feel a little tight, I watch myself.  It might also seem reasonable that if people urge you on it can help you lose weight.  Not so.  The worst that you can do for someone battling weight is to nag.  I have a friend who watches me weight like she'd panning for gold.  When six months of prednisone (notorious for putting on weight) bloated me up some fifteen pounds, up to a size 10, (I'm 5' 7"), I stopped seeing her.  Frustration with weight is another issue that is cloudy. 

It might seem that if you get frustrated you will drop off the weight loss wagon.  Again, that is not necessarily true.  Some people thrive, are motivated when they are frustrated.  It heightens the importance of the goal. 

It might seem reasonable that setting small goals might help more than setting large goals.  Not necessarily true.  Some individuals like the challenge of life-changing weight loss.  That's one of the appeals of WLS.  

The article points out that Weight Loss Surgery may be the best option for some of us.

In my opinion the greatest problem we face is self-loathing.  It gets in the way of rationality, deflates self-worth and sets us up for failure because we think we doomed.  Enjoy the article link below! Dr. Dawn Hopper.

  http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2013/01/30/myths-of-weight-loss-are-plentiful-researcher-says/